I’ve been watching Ellen a lot lately.  Partly because I have set up a temporary office on my couch…who knew I edit WAY more efficiently while watching TV?!  And partly because I have seriously high hopes for going on her show sometime soon.  Gotta put it out there…right?  But at the end of every show she says…be kind to one another.  At first I just thought…awwww, that’s a nice thing to say.  Then day after day it sort of stuck with me.  Be kind to one another.  That is really all anything comes down to.

 

There is a lot of really crappy stuff going on in the world.  I make Gary screen the news for me because there are certain things I just don’t want to know.  Big, bad, scary things are going on so why not do what we can to make our little corner of the world a little nicer.  I’ll admit it…I’m prone to a little road rage once in a while.  I mean…I do live in Chicago.  And there are times when I’m not the nicest person in the world (I know…it’s shocking). But I think there is a lot to be learned from those five little words.  You never know how much the littlest gesture of kindness can mean to someone.  Every single person out there is dealing with something.  Going through something.  And taking the time to just be kind…even in the littlest way…could literally change someone’s entire day.  Every time I go somewhere and someone holds the door for me it somehow restores my faith in humanity.  Or when people let me in while I’m driving.  Or pay for my Starbucks…which still blows my mind a little.  Or even just a smile on the street.  It’s so simple yet so huge…because all it comes down to is kindness.

 

I believe every person has the ability to change the world.  And being kind to each other is the perfect place to start.  So hold a door or help someone when they need it.  Pass on your unused parking stub or buy a stranger coffee.  Because at the end of the day…all it comes down to is people loving people.  And yes I just quoted Garth Brooks.

 

Happy Friday everyone!

 

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  • Christy Tyler - October 24, 2014 - 9:17 am

    I’m glad you’ve been studying for your debut, because Ellen really is the best and has been brightening my workday at home (& making me cry) for years now!! Love her! That end part gets me every time. Be kind! (Also, I hope you’re practicing your dance moves for when she introduces you!) ;)ReplyCancel

You know when it’s coming.  You can feel it deep down in the pit of your stomach.  That feeling of something brewing.  It sort of twists and pulls and no matter how many times you try to ignore it…it never lets you.  You try to distract yourself with life.  Focusing on putting one foot in front of the other and promising yourself that if you just get to the next thing on your list…that feeling will go away.  But it just keeps piling on.  Pushing down on you harder and harder until you have no other option but to break.  And then it happens…the melt-down.

 

We all have them.  I don’t care how together you have it or on top of things you are.  How stressful or stress-less your life is…at some point we all just need a few minutes to break.  To curl up in a ball…feel sorry for ourselves and let the tears flow.  I remember during my whole cancer debacle…I never really let myself break down.  I was so hell-bent on keeping a positive attitude that I did everything I possibly could to keep a smile on my face.  But there was one day…in the car on the way home from a doctor’s appointment where they told me I had to have chemo…I let it go.  I sat in the car trying to look as far out the window as possible so Gary wouldn’t see me.  A few tears escaped but I used ever bit of will I had to hold them in.  As we got closer to our house Gary looked at me and said…it’s OK to cry.  I walked upstairs…curled up in a ball on the couch and cried.  Hard.  I felt sorry for myself and cursed every reason why this could be happening to me.  I let my mind go for as long as it took and just let myself melt down.

 

And a funny thing happens.  It’s like we try so hard to fight these feelings because on some level I think we think it means we are failing.  Like we are weak.  But have you ever noticed that after you let yourself go.  Give yourself those few minutes to just collapse.  That you come our even stronger than before.  That letting all the pressure out makes everything that was weighing on you seem a little less daunting.  Like now you see things with a new perspective and whatever it was that caused you to melt down in the first place…all the sudden lost it’s place?

 

After I had my melt-down over chemo…I went from devastated to all the sudden being able to see the positives.  I even made a list of all the things that would be awesome about chemo.  Having lots of time to read books, not having to shave my legs, cutting my getting ready time in half…it went on and on.  But the point is we fight these feelings because we think they define us.  We push everything down so no one sees it…including ourselves.  Or maybe I should say I do that.  But the truth is it’s those melt-downs that set us free.  That jolt us back to life and remind us that the bottom exists purely to bounce us right back up to the top.

 

So the next time you know it’s coming.  You feel those twists and pulls and pressure.  Let it happen.  Let it go.  And remember it’s moments like these that make us beautifully and perfectly human.

 

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From the first email…I liked them immediately.  I found myself laughing after every one and once we finally got the chance to meet face to face…it was no different.  We sat there for hours and talked like we had known each other forever.  We realized what a small world it was that Adam and I were both from Indianapolis.  And talked about all the magical parts of their New Year’s Eve wedding.  By the time we wrapped things up…I not only wanted so badly to shoot these guys’ wedding.  I wanted to be their friend.

 

When we met for their engagement session…the laughter never stopped.  We had such a blast and it made me incredibly excited for their wedding!  And not to mention…I JUST found out that Adam has an obsession with pugs.  Goose doesn’t know it yet…but the four of us are going to be great friends!  :) Ok…enough from me.  Feast your eyes on Rickey and Adam!

 

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I honestly don’t even know where to start when talking about these two and their incredible day.  Every single detail was perfectly placed…and from start to finish it was literally something out of dream.  The most gorgeous flowers you’ve ever seen lined the incredible backdrop of a perfect fall day.  The sun peeked through the trees and from start to finish it was a day no one would ever forget.  As Ashley walked down the petal-lined aisle every person’s face…including Bart’s…was in pure awe.  In awe of her exceptional beauty.  In awe of the beauty that surrounded them everywhere they looked.  And in awe of a couple that is so obviously in love.  As Ashely and Bart exchanged their vows and said “I do”…it was undeniable just how meant to be this day was.  Because these two were meant to spend the rest of their life together.

 

Ashley and Bart…thank you SO much for including me in your magical day.  It was honestly one of the most beautiful wedding’s I’ve ever been a part of.  Your family and friends are just a testament to the kind of people you are…kind, fun and well…amazing.  I love you guys to death and wish you nothing but happiness!!!!  xoxo!!!!

 

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An ENORMOUS thank you to Tami Paige for second shooting with me.  As always…she rocked it.

And a HUGE thank you to all the vendors that made this incredible day happen!

Venue: Chicago Golf Club  |  Florist: English Garden Flower Shop  |  Wedding Planner: Christin Robinson – Bombshell Events  |  Videographer: Lexoria Wedding Films  |  DJ: Toast and Jam

  • Stephanie friess - October 20, 2014 - 11:49 am

    Wow! What an beautiful couple and wedding. Congratulations:)ReplyCancel

  • Emilia Jane - October 21, 2014 - 10:59 am

    What a STUNNING wedding! Love it!ReplyCancel

Every time I go to Indy…I always stop at the same Starbucks.  It’s right by the highway so it is fast and convenient.  A few weeks ago when I stopped there I got my usual coffee with one pump of pumpkin spice…and one splenda.  As soon as I drove away and took a sip…I’m pretty sure it had about 17 pumps of pumpkin spice because it tasted like Willy Wonka invented it.  I chocked it up to a fluke and went on with my day.  On my way back to Chicago I stopped at the same Starbucks and ordered a Venti passion iced tea.  As soon as I got on the road…I took a sip and almost spit it out.  When I looked at the little tag it said berry mojito something which can basically be summed up as disgusting.  So I drove home with no drink and those angry lines on my forehead.  Then yesterday…I went to the SAME Starbucks and ordered a Venti orange refresher for the ride back to Chicago.  I had learned my lesson so when she handed it to me I checked the tag to make sure it was, in fact, what she said it was.  Everything lined up so I grabbed my drink and hit the road.  I wasn’t a mile into my trip before I took a sip and once again almost spit it out.  It tasted like rancid orange juice and had it not been so late…I would have turned around and gave that Starbucks a piece of my mind.  I mean COME ON!!!!

 

But the moral of this very random story is…always take a drink before you drive away.  It will save you hours of sadness.  And in honor of this random Thursday morning…it’s another installment of random thoughts of the day!

 

  • I think Starbucks owes me at least 3 free drinks.  Those Ventis aren’t cheap!
  • I’ve been really into Chorizo lately.  Like kind of obsessed.  Next time you go out to breakfast order scrambled eggs with cheddar cheese, tomatoes and chorizo.  You won’t be disappointed.
  • I hate when people talk about how busy they are…like we’re all busy…let’s just take that out of the conversation.  But I just have to state that my recent busyness had sent my house into a whirlwind of messiness that makes me want to faint.  It might be condemned soon.  Please send help.
  • I think Gary and I have officially reached our capacity of shows that are humanly possible to watch.  Our DVR is out of control.  What did we do before the days of recorded television?  I don’t even want to know.
  • Spoiler alert:  Sweets died on Bones and I’m sort of irrationally sad about it.  Not OK Bones…not OK.
  • I had my first attempt at making soup…and I NAILED IT!  Southwestern corn and potato chowder for the win.  I’m sure Top Chef will be calling any day now.
  • Now that I actually get all my emails…I finally understand what people are talking about when they say how crazy their email is.  The party never stops.
  • My birthday is one week from Sunday!  Which means it’s officially Month de Lauren!  My favorite month of course.
  • Gary and I got court side tickets to a Bulls game on Monday night.  I don’t think I’ve ever been as in to basketball as I was in those seats.  Hellllllo NBA players!
  • And finally…Katharine and I have decided to quit our day jobs and become professional selfie takers.  Because we are AWESOME at it.

 

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